Here are some mantas that I can live by:
*What you do speaks so loud I cannot hear what you say. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
The more life experiences I have, the more I realize that it is people's behaviors that speak for them, and not their words.
*There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn't with you, it is with themselves. ~ Anonymous
I have also learned that people's emotions are also about themselves, not me. There are people who always drive with road rage. (I'm not talking about those of us who get upset with the guy who cuts us off, or drives 20 miles under the speed limit when we are late, it is normal for us to upset by these things. I'm talking about the person who flips off every driver, who roles down his window to yell at any driver, who gets out of his car at red lights to scream at drivers, and even bumps other cars and chases other drivers on a regular bases.) There are people who keep their rage just under their skin; who wait until they are drunk and then yell at the wait staff, or bring up petty arguments with family members, or complain about spilled food on counters and other minor things. They are always pointing out small imperfections of those around them. The never see their own minor imperfections but always those in others and create drama and conflict by pointing them out.
*It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.
This is what growing up is all about... plus taking responsibility for yourself. For many women, they are looking for others to save them. This isn't a disney movie. Women need to save themselves. For many men, they are looking for someone to blame. They need to take ownership of their problems. When people have the courage to grow up, they can become who they were meant to be.
*You are not powerless.
Even when the entire universe conspires against you; you still have the choice to think freely. That is the greatest power of all.
*Is fat really the worst thing a human being can be? Is fat worse than vindictive, shallow, jealous, vain, boring, evil, or cruel? ~J.K. Rowling
And might I add, violence, war, poverty?
*People don't always need advice. Sometimes all they really need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand them.
*If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten we belong to each other. ~Mother Theresa
*Do no harm, but take no shit.
*Never ruin an apology with an excuse. ~Abraham Lincoln
*Most relationships fail because we spend too much time pointing out each other's mistakes and not enough time enjoying each other's company. ~
*Girls don't dress for boys. They dress for themselves, and of course, each other. If girls dressed for boys, they'd just walk around naked at all times. ~Betty Johnson
No other explanation necessary...
And of course, communication styles: