Monday, December 27, 2010

Happiness Discovery

What makes you happy?

I am happy when I am with my children, when I am successful at work, when I am excercising, when I am watching a sunrise or sunset or sitting on a beach and the tide is rolling in.  I am happy taking photos of nature.  There are so many things that make me happy.  Crawling into bed after a long day and the covers are just the right temperature.  Being up in the mountains and hiking a trail, or remembering being on a snowmobile, or racing my car really fast. Running early in the morning with my music blaring in my ears and no one is bothering me. Being so engrossed in a book that time doesn't exist. 

When I was in the mormon church, I was told there was only one way to be happy.  That one way for a woman consisted of being married, having lots of children, staying home, cleaning house and being submissive to her husband.  I did not desire these things, but since I was told this was the only way to be happy (even though I was not unhappy and quite liked my life and felt happy and fulfilled without these things) I did what I was told.  The more I embrassed these things, I discovered the more unhappy I became.  I thought I was doing something wrong.  I thought there was something wrong with me.

After 20 years of being very, very unhappy, I left this myth of happiness behind, left the mormon church, got a divorce, got a job... and discovered happiness.

I discovered that there are many roads to happiness, one organization does not hold a corner on happiness, they cannot tell everyone how to be happy.  This is a road that each individual must discover for themselves.

I am so happy I discovered happiness before I died.

1 comment:

Froggie said...

Things that make me happy. Chocolate, Mozart, solitary walks in the moonlight, my favorite pillow, vanilla musk perfumes, cinnamon, happy children, beautiful sunsets, caring friends, real connecting hugs, beautiful poetry, good food, candlelight.