Monday, March 23, 2015

It isn't all about you

Have you ever just gone about your own business, just doing your own thing, but there is that one person who has to make everything in life about them?

If you say the whether is rainy, they complain that it is raining just to irritate them.  If the cashier is abrupt, it is just to piss them off, and if you break up with them, they must make it all about them and how you are unfair to them; 'didn't i cook dinner for you well, and clean the kitchen and pay half the bills? What's your problem for not being grateful, after all?'

I have to wonder how ego-centric they are to make everything in life about them. They must be so deprived of self love to have to go through life feeling like that all the time.

Maybe, just maybe it's about me. Maybe I want a man in my life who is financially solvent, who communicates directly rather than passive aggressively, and who isn't depressed all the time. Maybe I want a man in my life who isn't always flirting with every skirt that walks in the room and instead makes me feel like the most important woman in the room.

Maybe it's about me because I have a right to make it about me.


judy Wolf said...

I am so sorry you have been hurt

Alecia Harris said...

Thank you, Judy. I think all people in life are hurt at some level or degree. I find healing in writing, and I hope others find healing in reading and knowing they aren't alone.

I also believe it isn't healthy to pretend life is perfect, that pain is a part of life, and in that respect, I write about pain, but also about healing.